The police have my phone I gave it them to download the conversation we had ..
How long will this process last??
How can she or I prove consent??
She said after the "rape" happened she went to sleep in the front room on the sofa.. When she woken up again she went in the bedroom and I was still there asleep.. I hope her friend tells a different (the truth) statement
Thank god for this forum!
I'm not going to sugarcoat it for you - it could be over very quickly; it could escalate to arrest and formal taped interview; even then, without charge it could last months. There have been so many calls for the system to be made faster, but that isn't the priority.
As for consent... the tendency is to believe women makes it more complex. And the wave has been further against more recently wanting there to almost be some kind of proof that consent was given. Strangely this is only asked of women consenting to a man, and not a man consenting to a man. Although the law itself makes not specific mention of gender, the law is applied by PEOPLE, and the bias is to see women as the victim.
Bear in mind something about liars. They have to be consistent. BUT if they over-practise and are word perfect each time...well that's a problem. Just think if you had sex 3 times which one is she claiming was the rape? The first? Second? Third? All 3 - or just two of them? When did she say no? At the first time? She said it 5 times. Was that twice first? And if you are such a dangerous, scary nasty multiple rapist who attacked her three times in ONE NIGHT....... why didn't she take the first opportunity to run out the front door and not go and have a shower, leaving you to sleep on the sofa?
Why did she have a shower, let you wake up and get dressed, and then wait x hours or x days to report the rape(s)?
From what you have said so far it seems like Swiss cheese! You need to give the police some time though. Don't expect immediate answers, and that will have nothing to do with you or them or the strength of the case. For example, they might decide to ask for her medical records. That can take at least a month. They might ask for phone records - a warrant for that non-urgent, and then the non-urgent request can take weeks.
Take everything you know about police procedures you think you have learnt on the TV, and FORGET it. The real process is much slower. More importantly only 6% of rape cases end in a conviction - and that includes the cases where there is violence, bruises, witness and DNA, let alone this mad woman crying rape because you pissed her off.
And as for using her?
It take two to tango.